When they began a romantic relationship in 2006, they faced judgment from family and friends.“There were a lot of the ‘boy toy’ remarks, and I will say it mostly came from men my age — there’s a threatening aspect to a woman dating a younger man,” she says.When it came to finding love in New York, Amber Soletti, a 42-year-old who lives in the West Village, had no luck dating older guys or men her own age.While they were “well-established and articulate,” she wasn’t physically attracted to them and found they had too many issues.Prior to meeting Siegner in 2012, Angal was a tour manager for a music company and had a lifestyle he describes as “sex, drugs and rock ’n’ roll.” He mostly dated party girls in their 20s.But when he was set up with Siegner by a mutual friend, matchmaker Sameera Sullivan, he says his life turned around.“When you’re an ambitious woman, it’s very difficult — you either have to subsume what you wanna do for somebody else, or live with the struggle to fight your partner on top of business survival, and it’s a very unhealthy relationship,” says Nicole Wipp, a 45-year-old attorney and entrepreneur, who found a perfect match in her husband, Marcus Sutherland, a 33-year-old paramedic.“Dating somebody younger than myself, there’s an acceptance of ambitious women — it’s more normalized.” They met at the University of Hawaii in November 2002, when she was a law student and he was a sophomore undergraduate.
“Younger guys tend to be more active, have less baggage,” says Soletti, an event planner who regularly hosts dating mixers.
“With some women I dated, they wanted to play games, but Jennifer always communicated that she wanted something real,” Angal says.
“I always knew where I stood with her.” Soon after they met, he cleaned up his act and left the entertainment industry.
“I love that she loves me so much, and that I mean a lot to her,” says Sutherland.
“I can tell because she always makes me feel wanted.” Alan Angal, 36, was attracted to his older fiancée, Jennifer Siegner, 45, for her stability.
“It was love at first sight,” Angal says of meeting Siegner, a buxom blonde who was a successful account executive at a graphic design company at the time.