The undisputed leader for cheating is Ashley Madison, the "Life is short. Ashley Madison has experienced meteoric growth since its founding in 2002, with no slowing in sight, regardless of the big leak of its users in 2015 that left many a cheater exposed. Recent reports state that Ashley Madison has a community that is comprised of 70 percent men and 30 percent women.
And while founder and former CEO Noel Biderman doesn't condone having an affair, he seems perfectly comfortable with others doing their adultery thing. and now, it was my turn to get my (feigned) cheat on."Hello, Ashley Madison! "I filled out my nickname and relevant info, plopped down my credit card number (discretely billed as "AMDB" to my credit card statement), and then all I needed to do was ... I was faced with the eternal online seduction dilemma: now what? Clearly women have the upper hand with choice, so I needed to stand out against all the other guys. I mean, we all like walking on the beach, but that's not why you're on the site.
After a long pause, I got her only thought: "No, I get it," she said emphatically. But it's kinda like asking the newly vegetarian fox to guard the henhouse, isn't it? I worked hard to become the embodiment of seduction.
" I thought about it, and unfortunately her statement wasn't too far from the truth. To quickly read the spoken and unspoken clues of what a woman was looking for in a man, and then give her the perception I was that guy.
But is it really so black and white, with no grey and no room for mistakes, missteps, or moments of weakness?
Do people who cheat want to leave their current marriage?
It would be part of my research into women who cheat, why infidelity is increasing, and what can be done to possibly affair-proof a marriage.I proposed to "cheat" on her for a few weeks, to talk to and attempt to seduce as many women as possible, and get a real-world understanding of why women want to stay married but also need some illicit action on the side.Of course, on my end, there'd be nothing more than conversation. I searched her eyes for any telltale sign of the Charles-I'm-going-to-punch-you-in-the-face-right-after-I-castrate-you look; nothing.With my wife watching TV on the couch a mere 10 feet away, here I was talking dirty to a 36-year-old married woman (who's husband was probably watching TV on the couch a mere 10 feet away from her). I discovered that to satisfy their deep longing for passion with minimal risk, many women sign up for Ashley Madison to have virtual sex via chat. Most of these women seemed comfortable in getting what they needed online.Over the next several days, I had chat sessions of varying length with 33 different women (hmm ... It was arm's-length cheating for them (and perhaps one-handed typing). We got into a long discussion about the arm's length approach to cheating these women had, and if it was really cheating.If you back me up a few years — sans wife, kids, dogs, published book on relationships, 1.5 million readers and fans following my relationship advice on Facebook — I was a chronic womanizer; a past she knows about, but never experienced personally. In effect, to become so alluring that she would willingly give herself over, thinking that having sex was her idea.