Seemingly, this all made sense and I thought it was great to be able to get to know someone without having to take things all the way. But as time went on I started to wonder how much longer his journey of celibacy would last. And if I were to let him go wouldn’t that be like a man dumping a woman because she doesn’t want to put out?
It wasn’t that I was horny or anything, I just started to question if he was actually into me. I couldn’t see myself breaking up with a guy just because he didn’t want sex.
With this hiatus, I realized that I subconsciously and consciously made the decision to practice celibacy.
I say I made this decision subconsciously and consciously because during this time, subconsciously, I did want to have sex, but I didn’t want to deal with the emotional and possible physical consequences that come along with it, and I didn’t want to have another meaningless sexual experience.
Not just having it or the prep time involved, but also the cost of sex (yes, the cost of contraception & lingerie can add up). That’s a lot of time & effort that could be directed somewhere else.
3) Self-discipline – there are a lot of things in life that we have to work hard to achieve like developing a successful career, or even hitting the gym on the regular.
After this realization, I decided to do some soul searching to really understand why I was celibate, and to decide whether or not I would stand firm on this decision. I didn’t take the necessary time to learn who they were and develop a close and personal connection with them for the people they were before I developed a connection with them sexually simply because I was physically attracted to them. A lot of people, both men & women, have admitted to being celibate at some point in their lives.People practice celibacy for a number of reasons ranging from religious to personal choice.I recognize all of these things are real-life advantages of not having sex but why wasn’t he recognizing the benefits of us having sex?: 1) Bringing us closer – sometimes intimacy and sex go hand & hand.So why should holding out from sex be any different?