The answer is — our brains are wired to respond that way.
When scientists placed people in functional MRI machines and asked them to recall a recent rejection, they discovered something amazing.
Rejections are the most common emotional wound we sustain in daily life.
Our risk of rejection used to be limited by the size of our immediate social circle or dating pools.
We have an innate desire to find companionship, but we’re constrained by our growing responsibilities.When our spouse leaves us, when we get fired from our jobs, snubbed by our friends, or ostracized by our families and communities for our lifestyle choices, the pain we feel can be absolutely paralyzing.Whether the rejection we experience is large or small, one thing remains constant — it always hurts, and it usually hurts more than we expect it to. Why are we so bothered by a good friend failing to “like” the family holiday picture we posted on Facebook? Why would something so seemingly insignificant make us feel angry at our friend, moody, and bad about ourselves?We call ourselves names, lament our shortcomings, and feel disgusted with ourselves.In other words, just when our self-esteem is hurting most, we go and damage it even further.Co-founders and sisters Arum, Dawoon, and Soo Kang started Coffee Meets Bagel to remedy the hustle and bustle of everyday life, providing a casual environment for people to meet up.