But isn’t it interesting how my initial gut reaction to these opening lines were anger, frustration and the strong desire to punch something?? This shouldn’t be something that you have to think too hard about. The dive in-opening line shows women a few things about you.
Probably one of the most common opening lines that I get is, “Hey, what are you? First, it shows that you are confident in who you are.
If you’ve been reading my blog, watching my instant download programs OR listening to my podcast, you know that I am NOT a fan of canned lines and openers. Because as a woman, I know it’s about WHAT you say, not how you say it. When a guy begins with “Hello,” I have a pretty good idea where the conversation is going—toward awkwardness.
But I also know that everyone needs training wheels to hone a new skill, which is why I asked my awesome Wing Girl Alex to provide her advice on opening lines that work. PLUS – she gets hit on all the time and gets to see a lot of examples of opening lines that work and opening lines that fail miserably. No one likes the awkward aspect of introducing oneself and “Hello” is the kind of opening that makes me have to do that.
Any strategy you try be sure that someone already tried it. This is of course if you are looking for something deeper.(NOTE: I’ve been teaching the Dive In Method for years but I call it OSA) Opening Lines That Work & An Introduction To The Dive In-Opening Line By: Alex This weekend I matched with someone on Tinder. It sounded like a sexual come on gone bad because of auto correct. Rather, they make us look for the quickest exit away from you. And when I say correctly, what I really mean is him making it very clear that he knows he is using a classic “pick up line” and is ironically using it OR playfully using it and then calling it out. He didn’t exactly look like the kind of guy I would swipe right on. Skip the awkwardness and comment on something that is going on around us so we can start a conversation, get to laughing, or bond over something we see. Too many girls are afraid to rock a cut like that.” “Know of any good bars near here?I think he meant to say, “I spank you like a horse.” Or maybe, “in horse” is a sex position? Why did he think that was appropriate to say to a total stranger? Later, I got to thinking about this and about all the opening lines that I have received over the years, which ones worked and which ones didn’t. I’ve had guys be really mean in their opening lines and say things like: Guy–“So you and your friends are too good to talk to me? We haven’t even been given a chance to talk to you. Guy #3—“Standing there looking all bougie” (Pronounced “Boo-she,” slang for “bourgeoisie”) How is my posture conveying that? For example, I have to give props to this guy who approached me a few months ago with the best pick-up line ever. He stopped me and said, “Hey, didn’t I match with you on Tinder? ” At this point, I’m racking my brain trying to remember. How about using an opening line like, “Hey, what are you drinking” or “The bartender takes forever here.” Then five minutes later we can introduce ourselves and it will be less awkward because by then I will feel comfortable around you and will be willing to give you my name and learn yours. Other examples of dive in-opening lines may be: “Ever wonder why Starbucks employees always spell our names wrong? ” “This music is giving me flashbacks to my grunge phase.” As you can see, dive in-opening lines don’t have to be funny.******** Would love to hear what you think of the Dive In Opening Line. The life of a single guy or a girl in the online dating world is tough.If you've ever used a dating app or site you're well aware that the generic "Hey! " openers don't always lead to the best conversations.