We all knew it was going to take a Herculean effort to go down into Durham and beat the Blue Devils on their field. A warm evening rain fell gently on us in the fourth quarter as we tried to claw back. DON’T RUN INTO BATTLE SCAREDPersonally, I had a terrible game, tallying one assist and what felt like twenty five turnovers. What bothers me is the feeling I took into the game that I believe led to such a poor showing. They were big name players, wildly athletic, and on a roll. Taking a deeper look, it’s fascinating to look this feeling of intimidation from a scientific perspective.We took a solid week of practice into the game and came out ready to play. The nervous system has been evolving for over 600 million years.But it’s those of us that remember we carry the experience, the energy, and the opportunity that are great in that moment.As a female, one of the most uncomfortable feelings is pressure or intimidation by other females.Fear of being judged and caring so much about what other people think about us, can cause huge problems like crippling insecurities and social anxiety.
Most of the time it is not their intention to intimidate others, but it is a result of their tough attitude.“The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.” -Alice Walker May 9, 2009 – The first round of the NCAA lacrosse tournament – Navy vs. Duke had firepower up and down their roster and was playing great lacrosse at the time. We had no answer offensively, defensively, and everywhere in between.On the other hand, we entered the tournament injured and coming off a couple bad losses. Duke came out in the second half and extended the lead to 13-1. It’s about what leadership lesson I took away from the feeling of being intimidated. The feeling that transcends our lives and is sometimes misrepresented as jealousy, it was the feeling of inadequacy that they had more talent, better schemes, and untouchable players.Therefore, the brain is like Velcro for negative experiences, but Teflon for positive ones.That’s why researchers have found that animals, including humans, generally learn faster from pain than pleasure.”Modern day intimidation looks like a job interview, speaking up in class, or leading a team where people are constantly looking at you for answers. The constant, subconscious comparisons and evaluations we assess with one another that can quickly tailspin into a lack of confidence.Our ancestors had to make a critical decision many times a day: seek out a reward or avoid a hazard. states, “Imagine being a hominid in Africa a million years ago, living in a small band.