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Other people start to seem more attractive and before long all they can see are negatives in the relationship, and no positive aspects.
Don’t say yes, and then text them later and change plans and bail on it. And when this doesn’t go your way, as someone who has been dumped by many who haven’t reciprocated, my best advice is to look at each opportunity as an experience to learn.
If you don’t want to go out with somebody, POLITELY DECLINE FIRST.
The point of the first date should be to determine if you have a connection with somebody (not fall in love right there).
1) IF YOU HAVEN’T MET THIS PERSON IN REAL LIFE YET: My recommendation is to start with coffee, a drink, or something light hearted like meeting at a park. There’s nothing worse than learning within 5 minutes of meeting somebody that you’re not a good fit, only to have to sit through a three hour dinner or sit in awkward silence next to them at the movies. If it’s going well, there’s an attraction and conversation is coming easily, you can order another.
Wandering into the unknown, your head explodes, imagining every possibility: Is this date gonna suck? Is this going to be the person I spend the rest of my life with? For so many Rebels I’ve talked to, trying to get healthy is closely related to our hopes of finding someone special to spend our lives with.