Perhaps there is space for a friendship only version of these sites, where you can hook up with people of a similar perspective in your area.
I know you could use dating sites for this purpose, but don't think anyone would really believe you are just looking for friendship.
Questionnaires and psychometric profiling can be viewed with suspicion, but actually offer a valuable tool to self-understanding.
In fact I am actually thinking of signing up for some of the sites she suggests just to see how I'd be profiled – although I'm not sure my other half would be quite so keen.
The app allows them to stay in contact without the necessity of answering text messages; it keeps them up-to-date on what their exes and maybe exes look like without the necessity of inviting them out IRL; and the photo-based layout instantly telegraphs taste, social capital, hobbies and interests without the necessity of actual conversation.
I was no anomaly for Nesi — he approaches all girls with this same question.
After issuing a flattering compliment on my “good vibes,” he took out his phone and asked me the question I knew was coming: “What’s your Insta?
“If you go through and like at least one or two of my pictures, I know, , which equals, she’s interested,” he says.
These sites not only offer social networking features like Facebook and Twitter but they also provide instant messaging and in some cases even video calling – hopefully with slightly better vetting than Chat Roulette.
But more interesting that the pure technology is the science and psychology behind these site's success.
It makes sense that to genuinely find a suitable partner you need more than an online "little black book." As my friend discussed in her dating post, the process is as much about getting to know yourself as it is identifying what you want in your perfect partner.
By trying out these different sites I soon gravitated toward the ones that suited me – I just felt more at home at e Harmony and Swoon.
My personal Instagram is by no means a well-curated space.