Unlike his son, Dev’s dad had no choice but to select his wife from two arranged marriage presentations, so when Dev opens up about his ambivalence toward commitment, his immigrant father scolds him for his indecision.
Many young Muslims growing up in North America today share Dev’s uncertainty.
Salaam Swipe was also launched recently by Canadian entrepreneur Khalil Jessa and allows users to filter matches based on their political beliefs.
But having an abundance of online dating options doesn’t necessarily make the process of finding someone you can spend your life with easier.
We’re used to customizing everything from our Facebook feeds to the news we read to the possibility of “designer babies,” so it makes sense that we seek a partner who meets our romantic specifications. Religious spaces like mosques are typically gender segregated, and many Muslim millennials who grew up in North America find the idea of arranged marriage outdated.
Adeela*, 22, has tried Minder and Tinder in her quest for “an open-minded brown guy who adheres to the same moral standards,” which, to her, means a guy who does not drink or do drugs, and of whom her parents would approve.
Since most pools of friends are no longer in the habit of matchmaking (a lost art), many singles from all backgrounds are left with stories of many, many awkward coffee meetings.
But for those of us who continue to search for a proper soulmate—regardless of preference—one thing is for certain: Bad dates know no religious bounds.
It’s not like Nadia*, 21, can discuss her romantic frustrations with her parents as Dev did.
“It’s basically an unspoken rule that you don’t tell your parents you’re dating unless you’re getting married,” she says, admitting that, ironically, she’s looking for someone she can bring home to meet her family. “Being Pakistani, openly dating someone isn’t acceptable.
With a membership that numbers more than 35,000 lonely hearts, the app mimics traditional Muslim chaperone-accompanied matchmaking by allowing women to include guardians in their conversations with potential matches, and claims to be for single Muslims seeking marriage.