Just as you like to spend time with your special friends, I also want some time to be with my friends."With pre-teens and young teens (11-14) you can broach the topic of dating after the divorce. I'm wondering how you feel about me starting to date." Note: This does not mean that you are asking your child's permission to date. You are simply initiating discussion that is likely to be ongoing.
This is a good time to reassure your child that even though you are beginning to go out on dates, you will still always reserve time for just the two of you.
Obviously the time needed to heal is different for everyone.
Some professionals suggest waiting a year after the divorce before dating.
Take things slowly and give everyone the time they need to adjust to this new world of dating after divorce.
This is obviously a very personal decision with no one right answer.Know yourself, know your children and ask yourself this key question: Is this a decision I think is best for my children, or am I reacting out of guilt or fear?If your answer is the latter, you may want to address these powerful and often destructive emotions before making a final decision about dating after divorce.Dating after divorce is as hard on kids as it is on parents.If your children attach to every person you date, they are likely to be hurt and experience loss each time the relationship doesn't work.With teens (15-20) it is important to be honest about your actions. It's been long enough after the divorce that I am ready to meet some new people.